This was a wonderful read (and I am grateful for the transcript).
I see I can get this book from the public library, which I will do. Someone has it checked out right now, due tomorrow, but, I have elected to briefly suspend my hold, just in case this person needs a few more weeks to finish reading and absorbing.
This struck me, "this confrontation with sloppy bodies is not new." We all started out in a sloppy body! In the US anyway, we are socialized to forget that and deny we will all likely end up in a sloppy body again, if we live long enough.
This was such a wonderful interview! And particularly lovely to watch both of you connect on some of your experiences and bounce back and forth. Also, as a former statistics person, I have some opinions on why the snowball method might actually be representative of communities in a way that random or stratified sampling is not... which I shall save for another day. :)
This was such a wonderful interview, thank you so much Lisa for bringing Jessica to us. I will definitely be reading her book. I love how you handled the question of how the two of you, as disabled people, arrived at different decisions regarding parenting in your own lives - and how there are a whole host of other experiences out there too. Society (and people in Internet comment sections in particular) needs to practice handling such nuance and acknowledging that no single experience or decision is the 'right' or 'wrong' one. Every experience shared helps another person to develop their thought processes and make their own decisions about what is right for them.
Thank you both! As a parent with chronic pain, this piece especially will stick with me: "I don't think it was a loss for her that I wasn't the one helping her climb. I think it was expanding the people who knew and loved her." I often feel guilt for the time when I am resting and my kids are with daycare teachers, neighbors, family, or friends. But how fortunate they are to have so many steady adults in their lives.
Loved this conversation, thank you for the transcript! I'd been saving it for after I finished reading Unfit Parent, which I just did yesterday. My (disabled) partner and I both loved that quote that you highlighted here, "What if we judged every parent by how good they were at marshalling help for the sake of their children? If that were the metric, disabled parents would be among the best." It's a beacon and a balm as we are embarking on a journey of trying to become parents. So grateful to fold this wisdom into my heartmind, thank you both 🙏🏼
This was a wonderful read (and I am grateful for the transcript).
I see I can get this book from the public library, which I will do. Someone has it checked out right now, due tomorrow, but, I have elected to briefly suspend my hold, just in case this person needs a few more weeks to finish reading and absorbing.
This struck me, "this confrontation with sloppy bodies is not new." We all started out in a sloppy body! In the US anyway, we are socialized to forget that and deny we will all likely end up in a sloppy body again, if we live long enough.
We will all end up in a sloppy body — ain’t it the truth!!
This was such a wonderful interview! And particularly lovely to watch both of you connect on some of your experiences and bounce back and forth. Also, as a former statistics person, I have some opinions on why the snowball method might actually be representative of communities in a way that random or stratified sampling is not... which I shall save for another day. :)
I am not a statistic person, but I had a similar thought! Snowball sampling is real sampling!
This was such a wonderful interview, thank you so much Lisa for bringing Jessica to us. I will definitely be reading her book. I love how you handled the question of how the two of you, as disabled people, arrived at different decisions regarding parenting in your own lives - and how there are a whole host of other experiences out there too. Society (and people in Internet comment sections in particular) needs to practice handling such nuance and acknowledging that no single experience or decision is the 'right' or 'wrong' one. Every experience shared helps another person to develop their thought processes and make their own decisions about what is right for them.
Thank you both! As a parent with chronic pain, this piece especially will stick with me: "I don't think it was a loss for her that I wasn't the one helping her climb. I think it was expanding the people who knew and loved her." I often feel guilt for the time when I am resting and my kids are with daycare teachers, neighbors, family, or friends. But how fortunate they are to have so many steady adults in their lives.
Loved this conversation, thank you for the transcript! I'd been saving it for after I finished reading Unfit Parent, which I just did yesterday. My (disabled) partner and I both loved that quote that you highlighted here, "What if we judged every parent by how good they were at marshalling help for the sake of their children? If that were the metric, disabled parents would be among the best." It's a beacon and a balm as we are embarking on a journey of trying to become parents. So grateful to fold this wisdom into my heartmind, thank you both 🙏🏼