There’s something so radical—and so human—about choosing presence with a kid over perfection with a deadline. I needed the reminder that love isn’t a thing we squeeze into the margins, but something worth rearranging everything for.
Also: I hadn’t heard that Burkeman quote before, but it reframed everything. Especially the line about every choice being a stand for what matters most. What you wrote here is a stand—and I’m grateful to be one of the readers it reached.
I’m so sorry for your loss and pray that Chris’s memory will forever be a blessing. Thank you for being real about how you are feeling and modeling boundaries and self care. Comforting hugs to you!
I’m so so sorry, Lisa - friends hold so much of our memories and joy, it’s a loss. I hope you find the continuing time and space to feel all that’s needed. I imagine you holding a lot of joy and memories for the other friends, too ❤️❤️❤️
There’s something so radical—and so human—about choosing presence with a kid over perfection with a deadline. I needed the reminder that love isn’t a thing we squeeze into the margins, but something worth rearranging everything for.
Also: I hadn’t heard that Burkeman quote before, but it reframed everything. Especially the line about every choice being a stand for what matters most. What you wrote here is a stand—and I’m grateful to be one of the readers it reached.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Anton! Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks is gold -- highly recommended!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find ways to take time for grief.
(And I think “ATAP” might be either “A Trap” or “Attack” given that it follows “Shhh” :))
Holding you and everybody who loved Chris in the light, Lisa.
I'm so sorry for your loss, thank you for prioritizing space to grieve, it is so important!
So sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.❤️
Condolences. We dont have the right words to explain the loss of a friend that conveys its enormity ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss and pray that Chris’s memory will forever be a blessing. Thank you for being real about how you are feeling and modeling boundaries and self care. Comforting hugs to you!
I’m so glad you reshared this, it’s a message I don’t think we can hear too much.
I’m so sorry, Lisa. Sending you so much care right now.
I’m so so sorry, Lisa - friends hold so much of our memories and joy, it’s a loss. I hope you find the continuing time and space to feel all that’s needed. I imagine you holding a lot of joy and memories for the other friends, too ❤️❤️❤️
Thinking of you in this hard time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, what an awful and sudden grief.
Sending love for your loss <3