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Anton's avatar

There’s something so radical—and so human—about choosing presence with a kid over perfection with a deadline. I needed the reminder that love isn’t a thing we squeeze into the margins, but something worth rearranging everything for.

Also: I hadn’t heard that Burkeman quote before, but it reframed everything. Especially the line about every choice being a stand for what matters most. What you wrote here is a stand—and I’m grateful to be one of the readers it reached.

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Lisa Sibbett's avatar

Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Anton! Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks is gold -- highly recommended!

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Kerri Christopher's avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find ways to take time for grief.

(And I think “ATAP” might be either “A Trap” or “Attack” given that it follows “Shhh” :))

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Garrett Bucks's avatar

Holding you and everybody who loved Chris in the light, Lisa.

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lee's avatar

I'm so sorry for your loss, thank you for prioritizing space to grieve, it is so important!

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Anne's avatar

So sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.❤️

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Amrita Vijay's avatar

Condolences. We dont have the right words to explain the loss of a friend that conveys its enormity ❤️

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Rebecca W.'s avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss and pray that Chris’s memory will forever be a blessing. Thank you for being real about how you are feeling and modeling boundaries and self care. Comforting hugs to you!

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Dacy Gillespie's avatar

I’m so glad you reshared this, it’s a message I don’t think we can hear too much.

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Amy Kerr's avatar

I’m so sorry, Lisa. Sending you so much care right now.

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greatbigempty's avatar

I’m so so sorry, Lisa - friends hold so much of our memories and joy, it’s a loss. I hope you find the continuing time and space to feel all that’s needed. I imagine you holding a lot of joy and memories for the other friends, too ❤️❤️❤️

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Tiffany Cartwright's avatar

Thinking of you in this hard time.

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Liz's avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss, what an awful and sudden grief.

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Branden Boyer-White's avatar

Sending love for your loss <3

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